Look at the picture. What do you see? Two dog heads?
A mask? A butterfly-beetle hybrid? Symmetry? A blob of ink? Or, like me, did
you say, “No! I refuse to give in to
this! I hate these! I see nothing!” and then see dog heads and a mask
simultaneously anyway?
Perspective can be a fickle thing. Sometimes, as in
the case of the Rorschach test above, the power of suggestion can completely
change the way you see an entire picture. If you saw dog heads initially, and
that was all you could see, you could probably see a mask and butterfly after I
gave them as possibilities. Maybe you could even remove all images in your mind
after I mentioned “a blob of ink”. But in many, more serious instances,
perspective is not only fixed, but crucial. How you see an inkblot test will
not affect your life or that of someone else, but perspectives on what
constitutes murder, who deserves life, and when life should end will definitely
affect people’s lives. Unfortunately, the harmful, serious perspectives are
often the ones that are hardest to change.
The pro-life movement is based on changing someone’s
opinion of life and death. But such large issues are the foundation of people’s
entire worldviews. In asking them to change how they see abortion, euthanasia,
and similar issues, we are asking them to change how they see humanity,
dignity, and life itself. Not just when life begins or ends, but what life
means and why it is. That is huge. It’s easy enough to say to someone, “Look at
this picture. See it this way? Now look at that aspect of it. See it this other
way now?” and they say, “Yes, I do see it differently now! I will now always
see that in the picture.” But to ask someone to see the world so completely
differently as to change their entire life is another matter. You are telling
them that they are wrong. You are telling them that people they respect and love
are wrong, and that the very people they look up to lied to them. You are
telling them that their entire life has been a lie. That the foundation of
everything they have known and lived is just…not true. No one wants to be told
that. The prospect is terrifying and angering. It puts people on the defensive.
Convincing someone to change their opinion of something so fundamental takes
more time, more effort, and more patience than convincing them to see a blot
differently. It takes more argumentation. It takes more than one conversation.
And it will probably take more self-control.
Obviously we should not stop spreading the pro-life
message just because it is hard to tell and hear. The truth is often
uncomfortable and unwelcome. But we have to bear in mind that we are shaking
these people’s worlds to the very core and treat them with the care we are
asking them to give the unborn and dying. And do not get discouraged if someone
does not appear convinced after a single discussion—you are blowing their mind,
after all.
Written by BCR Secretary Eileen Wittig. Originally posted at iycoalition.org
This is an absolute essential part of politics. You can't just be right--you have to prove you're right. And sometimes, that takes time. I would encourage anyone who is trying to change someone's perspective to consider that the steps are important. If they don't come to your side in one giant leap, don't worry! Just take it one step at a time.
ReplyDeleteA great post, Eileen!